Small things, Big arguments

Post # 8

One thing that I have never come to understand is how people get so riled up about such small things. I probably wouldnt be talking about this if certain people in my house didnt argue about everything 24/7... The smallest things like why someone didnt wash the dishes in someone elses absence or why theres a sweater on the floor thats not hung up. Seriously these arguments last hours. and I use someone instead of actual names because I dont want to have privacy issues.

I see these kinds of arguments in life outside of my household as well. Arguments over who is better at a certain game or who likes a certain show more or something, and I think its all pointless. Although sometimes it's good to argue, sometimes it's not. Its good to argue in order to stand up for what you believe in and deep stuff like that but trivial matters such as a sweater on the floor is just... dumb. Its almost as if stubborn people have a switch they turn on that keeps them running despite things happening around them. For example its 12:30 AM right now and certain people in my house have to go to school or work early in the morning yet they still argue... about washing the dishes. Over my many years of observing these types of arguments, I have seen that stubborn people when trying to win arguments pull evidence from different places in time like the past. If this is the case, the argument can go on for hours and hours.

The solution? Swallow your pride. As a person that likes to avoid long meaningless arguments I swallow my pride a lot. I believe I can be doing something a lot more productive with my time than arguing about dirty laundry. Although thats not to say I always swallow my pride. Shoot if someone were to threaten my girlfriend or family or friends I would not swallow my pride but thats a different story. Im talking about small things that if argued dont have any purpose for anything.
What I see with stubborn people is they attempt to swallow their pride. They say something like, "Lets stop arguing, we are just going to argue more and more and its going to get more and more stupid," yes it will get "more and more stupid" but saying this kind of thing only adds fuel to the other stubborn person's argument. Seriously just say, "okay you were right, Im sorry." It works. Although you may feel rotten inside go punch a wall for all I care. freaking a. so pointless.

sorry that was random venting. A lot of it may be not true haha.

-david S. Kim